Withdrawing Consent

I believe that one of the worst acts of disobedience is withdrawing consent (and then wanting it back). It destroys the equilibrium of peace and harmony in the home. It destroys that deep sense of trust, unity and regime. It makes a mockery of all the effort and hard work, the HOH has put into adjusting his wife’s attitudes and guiding her to more acceptable, positive and conducive behaviour. Once those loving boundaries (limits) have been dispelled, the very fabric of what makes LDD so profound and intense is broken in a matter of moments. That closeness which both held and lovingly bound the man and his woman together, which may have taken months/years to solidly build, can be destroyed in seconds. The synergistic process of submission and authority, once removed, can leave an empty chasm of uncertainty, emptiness and deep insecurity.

It is perfectly fine to withdraw consent, if both parties agree that such a lifestyle is simply, no longer for them. Or, even if one of them, disagrees to continuing the lifestyle. But only after putting a great deal of thought and consideration for the other’s needs – it is after all shared, built on mutual understanding and trust. The important issue I am trying to stress, is that LDD is neither a game nor a tool which can be switched on/off. People either live the lifestyle to the full, or they don’t. If they do, they must be prepared for all eventualities and not temporarily give it up, because the ‘going gets tough.’ It is WHEN the ‘going gets tough’ that LDD is needed more than ever!

I found this out, much to my detriment, when all the issues pertaining to Z started. She found out about our disciplinary lifestyle. Therefore, with all the serious negative issues surrounding her, I thought it best (without any consultation with my HOH) to simply abandon LDD. My HOH was devastated! All he could say was.... “But I’ve put so much time and effort into helping you – how can you even contemplate on giving it up, when you are so clearly benefiting from it? How can you do this to us, yourself, our relationship?” “Because our daughter comes before you and before me – because SHE is the only person I want to concentrate on at present!” I retorted angrily. Little did I realise that such a selfish action, was displaying a fantastic ingratitude to my HOH. Little did I realise that, within days, my behaviour when faced with all of Z’s problems would spiral out of control!

By the end of the week, I had to beg my HOH to re-instate our LDD lifestyle. I had to beg for his forgiveness and admit that it was utterly wrong of me to have given up our lifestyle, without any regard to his feelings and efforts. I had to admit that I simply cannot live without the framework of loving limits and the implementation of loving, but firm spankings, when I misbehave. I had to admit that this lifestyle has given me such grounding and stability - unparallel to anything I've ever experienced before! LDD has given me so much freedom in a very short space of time. I am so much more confident and direct with what I want to do in life - before I was very good at sitting on the fence and contemplating, always starting something but never finishing - thus, never really progressing along life's path. Now I feel this immense strength well up from deep within me.... I feel that I can conquer the world! Since LDD I have never felt stronger or happier as a woman - a very feminine and deeply loved woman.

The punishment for my act of disobedience was to submit to 30 strokes of the cane. If anyone has ever received the cane, then they will understand, that one lash - just one - is excruciating! I have also been told to purchase the most severe type of cane ‘The Dragon’ which will hang in the closet of our bedroom. It will serve as a useful daily reminder, of what will happen, if I ever withdraw consent again!

C