C got her worst spanking yet :(

This weekend has marked a turning point in our Loving Domestic Discipline relationship. Over the previous fortnight, while I was away, we have been keeping in regular contact by email about chores. Unfortunately, despite many attempts and lots of phone calls, C did not follow my instructions, this I found very disrespectful. Her punishment was to learn by heart one of the emails that she did not pay attention to. I told her that I would spank her for each mistake she made. Her recital was to be on Good Friday, the first day we would be back together, which gave her about four days to rehearse. Despite being given extra hours to prepare, C's performance was dreadful! Once again, she had ignored my instructions and it was clear that she had done no serious preparation. Something had to be done! Naturally, C was tearful and remorseful about letting me down consistently like this. I gave the matter some serious thought. I told C that she should have a severe spanking (to strong tears) and then be caned with a switch from the garden. I think that a switch cut from the forsythia is more severe than the cane because it's thinner and whippier. The reason for such a severe spanking was that we both acknowledged that her behaviour was not what it should have been for quite a while. This spanking would wipe out all the misdemeanours in the past, whether she had told me about them or not and regardless of whether she had already been punished for them. This was a real opportunity to forgive all past misbehaviours. I admit that I have been putting pressure on C to do lots of chores, so we agreed that we would begin anew with an easier regime, with not so much emphasis on chores, so that the impending result would send C a clear message of my approval rather than disapproval.

~Artist: Paula Russell~


Well, C took the most severe spanking yet with truly remarkable courage. I was very proud of her. She prepared well, which included reading from LovingDD's book and ten minutes of silent prayer in each other's arms. When I turned her over my knee and started spanking her (while C was naked, of course), I knew that something special was happening. During her spanking, she did not flinch once, even when I was putting all of my effort into it. But, I also knew that she was not zoning out, which is something that C sometimes does when she is resentful of being spanked. She was responsive to each spank but was very controlled and determined indeed. After about twenty minutes, when she was starting to cry properly (C will often whimper quite early during a spanking but it is difficult to bring her to tears), her hand rose up. Instead of covering her bottom, she found my left hand and held it hard. We spent the rest of the discipline holding hands! It was a very sweet moment that I am proud to describe because my C behaved so bravely. This hard spanking took about forty minutes and C was sobbing openly towards the end. I am not certain that I could have carried on much longer, such was the force and rapidity. C did corner time, naked by the fire until her bottom cooled down from a flaming red to a rosy pink. I then told her to drape herself over the arm of the settee for her switching. I gave her six of the very best. I am not too expert at caning/switching, since I reserve this only for the most severe punishment (which thankfully is very rare) so on one occasion I struck quite low and another, I hit a previous welt. Despite this, C was so well behaved that she did not flinch much at all and did not cry out. I could hear her sharp intakes of breath as she fought to keep control. The side of C's right hip and thigh were the mostly welted because of the whippy nature of the way the switch wrapped itself around. Next time, I will have to stand even more at an angle and try harder to aim for the left buttock.

I would like to describe the new regime I mentioned that emphasises success rather than failure. We now have our own private wiki (What's a wiki?) that we are using to track; chores, misbehaviours, punishments, C's journal and some other bits and pieces. We chose a wiki over email or a private blog because it is easier to share things while we are apart, whilst retaining a record of all changes made. One quite interesting technique we have discovered is to have a table of warnings. These are simply things that C should not do or else she will get whatever the prescribed punishment is. This is so much more precise. I can say in the wiki that C should not do xxx or else the punishment will be yyy. If C does do it at any stage in the future, then it is quite plainly recorded what the consequences will be, thus, sending a very clear message to C. Every table has a space for both C's comments and my comments and C has her journal page where she can express her feelings or respectfully raise issues. It is private so that we can be confident that we can speak openly about our domestic affairs and will be quite boring to the reader anyhow. I would be happy to discuss off line the practicalities if anyone thinks it might be appropriate for their LDD relationship. So far, it is going really well. I have chosen emoticons as a quick reference of recording C's behaviour (“smiley” for her good behaviour and “frowney” for her misbehaviour) whilst she also has a relatively straight forward structure of recording to follow. The chores that I have asked C to do have been very easy so far. It is nice to have some time where there is little pressure to get things done so I can dish out the praise and smileys liberally. C knows, however, that she will have to meet increasing demands as she builds up to becoming a more dutiful and respectful wife. C is already doing voluntary chores that she will get well deserved praise for.

I am so proud of my very good girl for the way she took her punishment and is working on improving her behaviour.

R